Asked by pproudfoot
Really sorry to hear that :/
Off the top of my head I can think of reusable pads and sea sponges. And I think I’ve seen reusable tampons as well somewhere.
Hope this was a bit helpful?
Asked by Anonymous
Haha awesome! :D
Asked by Anonymous
Can you feel it poking out? It’s meant to sit just inside your vagina, a lot lower than a tampon should.
If you can run a finger around the bottom (don’t force your finger between the cup and the wall of your vagina if it won’t go or you’ll risk releasing the seal), and it feels smooth and round, then chances are that it’s also opened up properly.
Asked by Anonymous
If you get a burning pain just from inserting a finger, then chances are that you’re not going to be able to insert a cup comfortably. I’m not a doctor per se, but it’s possible that this might simply be because you’re not used to penetration, and your muscles tense up. Try taking a deep breath and relaxing a bit more?
But yeah, I’d definitely do a bit more research before getting a cup.
Asked by 17yearsinthecloset
I definitely don’t personally think virginity is a big factor for consideration, given that pretty much all brands that offer two sizes will push the smaller size as being great for virgins, despite there being a variation in actual diameters. So I’d personally only use those tests as a guideline, if you’re very unsure.
The Minis are actually wider than their regular counterparts, and not volume-optimized. I personally own a normal small cup, which holds the same amount as a Mini M, and I’ve only been using that on days where I have spotting as that is definitely not large enough to accommodate a normal flow day (my flow is mostly medium to light). It’s absolutely tiny!
The regular medium-sized cup is more or less the same size as a small Lunette, and I’d definitely recommendgetting that instead of the mini. It’s not too big, but holds a lot more :)
Softer cups are easier to manipulate/keep folded, which makes them popular with newbies. The only downside to this is that soft cups are also more likely to remain unopened than firmer ones. In the case of Meluna, the regular range is already pretty soft — their classic medium is about the same a small Lunette, which is on the softer end of cups, my small Meluna doesn’t even open half the time — so I think you’ll do fine with their classic range. I’ve never owned or tried anything from their Soft range, but given my experiences with their regular stuff… yeah.
Hope this was useful, let us know how you get on!
Here is a brief guide to some of the important things you never learned about in sex ed.
- Debunking myths about anatomy
- Brief overview of sexuality and gender (More complex version here)
- Slut-shaming and consent
- Various types of birth control (with at least 95% effectiveness)
- Sex toys
Ebook for sharing is [HERE] (I’m sorry I just really love making ebooks…)
This is fantastic!
Good lord I wish I had seen this instead of the sad excuse for sex education that we got at the age of 14.
Asked by n0tsaved
Oh my god! I’m so sorry that happened to you :O
But thanks for the lovely comment and do let us know how it goes :D
Asked by sironaselkie
May I ask how you’re breaking the seal?
When I first started using cups, I would stick a finger up the side of the cup and try to break the seal by literally pressing one side in, which although somewhat effective, takes a while, and tends to get messy with a full cup.
I find the best way to release suction is to bear down on the cup whilst slowly “walking” it down (slowly tugging, but like in a side to side motion instead of straight down) until you can get a decent grasp of the bottom of the cup. Squeeze the bottom of the cup and continue “walking” the cup slowly down until more of it is out, and then sort of folding it in a vague c-fold to make it even smaller, before walking it out all the way.
You won’t necessarily feel a “pop” as the seal breaks, but it does.
Hope that helped, do let us know how you get on :)
I’ve mentioned this ages ago and then never updated the second part. Which just goes to show that I really shouldn’t be trusted to do things in two parts, because well… I never get around to it.
So after the blood test and the swabbing, I left. Nothing too exciting about that. I was advised by the doctor I saw before my STD test to come and book an insertion appointment right after my period, because that would be when the opening to my cervix is the widest, and softest or something.
That’s just what I did. In fact, when I booked my appointment, I was still in the spotting stage. I got lucky because there was a cancellation that day, so I didn’t have to wait at all, really. Yay!
The first thing that the doctor did was sit me down and go over the whole procedure again, and show me another model of an IUD in a uterus. She then asked me if I’d gotten an STD check up. I said I did, mentioned the date, and she looked up my results in the system. Good news, I’m clean. Then I was asked to strip from the waist down and lie on the examining table. It’s not really a good idea to wear skinny jeans, even if they make your ass look fabulous. A nurse came in to assist with the procedure, and it might seem a bit excessive but trust me, I was pretty glad she was there. I had no qualms about taking off my clothes or having a complete stranger (or shall we say two?) look at my vulva. Nor was I bothered by the fact that I’d fallen behind on my grooming regime several weeks ago, and was sporting a sparse, straggly, patch of hair with several bald spots and uneven lengths. It’s odd how much it didn’t bother me, given the fact that this was always something I worried about when I was younger. I’m putting it down to a growth in maturity and a severe leap in the “body confidence/acceptance” department. In case you were wondering, I’ve also morphed into that annoyingly creepy female who sashays nude around the female changing room like she owns the place, regreting nothing. It’s more or less a 180 of how I used to be. I’m kind of revelling in it.
Anyway, back to the procedure. The first thing that the doctor did was give me a brief internal examination, to rule out any obvious anatomical anomalities; I had none. Next came a (thankfully) plastic speculum. Not really sure how to describe the feeling of having it expand inside you, but it’s a strange but not horrible feeling. She commented that she could still see a bit of blood right at the opening of my uterus, before picking up a cotton swab with a pair of really long, skinny tongs, dipping it in some sort of yellowish disinfecting fluid, and cleaning my cervix with it. I could barely feel that, although there was a teensy, almost indetectable cold sensation. After my cervix was nice and clean, the nasty part began. The doctor needed to sound my uterus, which basically means inserting a slightly curved, metal rod though the opening of my cervix in order to gain a rough idea of the size of my uterus; this process also stretches the opening a bit, to make insertion easier. I don’t want to put anyone off getting an IUD, but I personally found this to be absolute hell. There’s no adequate way to explain the sort of pain I felt, but it was higher up and somewhere to the side, and it was a mix between a stabbing pain, the sort of pain you get from severe bloating, and regular menstrual cramps. I considered yelling “I change my mind!” but obviously didn’t because a) that’s a bit of a douche-y thing to do since I already had the uterine sound in me and b) I would hate myself for not going through with a procedure that I’d been wanting to do for a while. The nurse stood by my head the whole time, whispering words of comfort. That actually helped a lot. After the sound was removed, and my uterus deemed to be something like 10cm (I think. It may have been 8cm), it was time for the main event.
The T-Safe 380a (which from my understanding is basically a Paraguard) that I was fitted with came packaged applicator and all, in a sterile plastic blister. Inserting it was basically like inserting a tampon with an applicator. You take the long, thin tube (which looks like one of those straws you get from Kentucky Fried McBurger King), fold the arms of the T-shaped IUD against its body, and insert it into one end of the tube so that the side with the arms is facing the outside. Then you stick that end into the opening of the cervix, and push the IUD into the uterus with the plunger. The arms of mine were apparently “very springy.” Not sure if that’s a good thing or not. Guessing it’s just a comment. Insertion felt more or less the same as sounding, but it was over in a couple of deep breaths. I was advised to lie there for a while, because apparently a number of people tend to not do well if they get up immediately. The nurse handed me a pad because I didn’t bring one, and told me that I would likely have spotting for the next few days, like an extended period. I pressed it into my underwear and got dressed. The doctor sat me down again, informed me of the model I was fitted with, and gave me a little info sheet with the model information, date of insertion, and date of expiry and a few FAQ regarding what to expect with a newly inserted IUD. I thanked her, left, and that’s pretty much it.
I got a text informing me that the results from my latest STD check were all negative after I left the clinic. Haha.
I’ve just finished three periods with my IUD, and I’ve used my menstrual cups with all of them, as before. I stuck with my softer Lunette and Melunas during the first two, but this last period all I wore was my Mooncup, which is my firmest cup. No problems so far, and my be-lated six week checkup indicated that everything was still where it should be. Contrary to what I expected, my period did not get heavier, although I do have prolonged spotting after the main event, and I do now experience menstrual cramps. Although I’m sure they’re not as bad as they could be, I’m just a wuss who’s never really had cramps before.
So yeah. This has been a post.